Whew! Anyone else still recovering from the start of school?
In our blended family, we have a college freshman, a high school junior and sophomore, and a 7th grader. I don’t know about you, but the beginning of school lasts at least a few weeks at our house. Between schedule pick ups, running classes before the first day, shopping for supplies (more like tracking down supplies), back-to-school nights, information meetings, sport meetings, shuttling kids here and there, etc. the days seem to run together.
Since our kids are older, we don’t have to do that back-to-school, open house dance that a lot of blended families do — trying to figure out if stepparents go or not. Thinking about it, I think I’m the only one who does go to those events. I mostly go to high schooler’s back-to-school night on the off chance that he’ll get some extra credit if I do.
I’ve read a lot of blogs and comments with regard to school information forms. I’m surprised at all of the energy that goes into who’s listed, who’s not. In our blended family world, I ensure that my ex-husband and husband are listed on my boys’ school information. I’m not sure if I’m listed on my stepson’s school information, but he’s 15 and he’ll call me if he can’t get in touch with his mom or dad. I don’t sweat that stuff too much since he’s older.
The having a kiddo in college has been a different experience. Watching from the outside has given me a look into what I can expect when my oldest goes to college in two years. My stepdaughter is going to college locally but chose to live in the dorms. Which I think is so good for her! But it’s not so great on her, ours and her mom’s pocketbooks. It’s crazy how much stuff these kids need for the dorm. I had forgotten. Either that, or the times have just changed. I’m going to go with the times changing. I told my husband that I think we need to start “Dorm Room” funds for the next two heading to college. However, they’re boys so they may not need as much. We’ll see. I’m not holding my breath.
We’re working at getting schedules settled in, establishing new routines, and trying to keep the wheels on at the same time. It’s hard to have too much of a set schedule/routine in a blended family with teens. I had to chuckle the other night when my husband told me that my stepdaughter said that her life is complicated and that his isn’t because he’s old. Omgosh! I laugh every time I think about it.
Quick update on my post A Letter to my Stepkids’ Mom — One week after I wrote this post, my step-daughter started engaging with me in a different, more open way, AND my husband’s ex-wife started engaging with him in a different, more positive way. We’re trying not to question it, just go with it. Going with grace.
I hope you’re having a great week. Here’s to everyone having a successful start to school!