The Backstory

Mine is a messy family story. Not the messiest by any stretch, but not storybook or Leave It to Beaver like either.

My Immediate Family

I know a bit about blended families. I’m the oldest daughter in a blended family. Here’s a picture of me and my sibs … I don’t think of them has halves, just as my brother and my sister. My mom married my dad when I was 8. I say my dad, because he adopted me a year after the wedding.

My brother is 11 years younger and my sister is 14 years younger than I am. Don’t you know that I got some strange looks when I was 14/15 years old carrying around a baby! We didn’t really grow up together as they were still young when I left for college. For me, I’ve always felt more like an aunt to them than a sister.

Here’s the other side of my family who live in a different state. That’s my bio dad, my grandmother, my step-sister and my half-brother. I didn’t meet any of these people, and that includes my biological father, until 2001. I was in my mid-30s. I think I look like my dad.

My mom and dad divorced when I was around 2-years-old. For most of my life I wasn’t allowed to speak about him or ask any questions. When I did meet him, I asked about why he gave me up for adoption, and he said that while it was the hardest thing he did, he agreed with my mom about not having to travel from state to state, and having a different last name than hers. I know they meant well. 

My father passed away unexpectedly in 2006. I am thankful that I made the decision to go see him the few times I was able to.

My Blending Family

My husband and I married, and started blending our families at the end of 2010. He was my 6th grade and 12th grade boyfriend, and I’ll share more of that story later. It’s just crazy how it all happened! We still look at each other and can’t believe we’re married. So, this is all of us today …

Family Picture 2011

 Yes, it’s our backs. And, yes, it’s a poorly Photoshopped pic at that. Sometimes you encounter opportunities when dealing with family pictures and blending families, and you need to find alternate solutions. I messed around with Photoshop so we could have one picture where we’re all together.

It hasn’t all been easy, however, we try to do the best we can at all times. Here are a couple of verses from the Bible that we like to rely upon:

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another” ~ Proverbs 27:17

“Yet in all things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.” ~ Romans 8:37


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